From "Titty Tuesday or you're out" Telegram groups to the unspoken "if my wife played with you, your wife owes me" expectation — coercion has quietly become normalized in corners of the lifestyle, and most people don't even recognize it for what it is. Even outside the obvious stuff, consent gets chipped away through microaggressions: the guilt trip when you say no, the "come on, just this once," the pouting, the comments that make someone feel like a buzzkill for having a boundary. These small moments add up, and they're often where real consent quietly erodes. Ed and Phoebe break down where consent commonly breaks down — online, in the bedroom, and in the subtle social pressure between — and why most couples never actually set ground rules ahead of time (hint: it's awkward, it kills the spontaneity, and nobody wants to be "that couple" with a list of demands). This session offers a practical framework for having those conversations before you need them, so you can stay safe, respected, and still keep the excitement of the unknown alive. If you've ever felt pressured, guilted, or unsure how to speak up — this class is for you.